Privacy issues

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Registered: 01-12-2004
Privacy issues
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Tue, 02-17-2004 - 2:26pm
How much is none of my business? My beau and I are going to move in together next month. We are really in love and have a great relationship. My problem is the issue of privacy and minding my own business. I am not a gossip and I hate being in someone else’s business, but when it comes to him I want to know everything and he isn’t the same.

For example today in the mail he received a letter that said "personal and confidential", when I asked him what it was about his response was "its nothing ... don’t worry" and he refused to tell me anything else. He knows that stuff like that really bothers me, and I know that he hates that fact that I always want to know. So my question is how much is really none of my business. I think at times he knows that I am going to ask and he likes keeping me on edge.

I am not sure what the best response is should I just leave it alone and not play his game or.... I have no idea.

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Registered: 06-18-2003
Thu, 02-19-2004 - 10:06am
I agree with Sheri as well. I do feel that my current BF would tell me if something was vital or impacting the relationship. I have always felt that things like diaries, journals, mail, email are a persons private posessions (what's in my purse as well). I have nothing to hide and so I share all these things, but I would never pry into someone elses. And I have the trust and faith in my BF that he feels the same.

Suspicious minds....wasn't that a song? Caught in a trap....It can be the downfall of a relationship.

Pam

Pam

The choices we make in thought, word and deed inevitably return to us in kind.

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Registered: 01-12-2004
Thu, 02-19-2004 - 12:22pm
Thanks everyone... we actually had a long discussion and worked things out.. he told me what the letter was about and that I should have just have trusted him when he told me it was nothing (it really was nothing)... we both agreed that we both need to have some kind of privacy when in a relationship and we both talked about what we do and dont need to know about each other.

Thank you all

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