problem kissing

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Registered: 04-12-2007
problem kissing
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Thu, 04-12-2007 - 9:36am

Hi,

I have just got back with my partner after a 2.5 year split to give it one last try as we have a 4 year old daughter and we both want a relationship. Also looking to the future, we both would like another child and to ensure our daughter is not an only child. Whilst we are making great efforts to keep the peace between us and trying to build our relationship up for the future, I have a problem with kissing. When we kiss I get a very strong feeling of repulsion towards her so much so that I have to prepare myself for it and try to cover it up, however my body language is sometimes awkward so she knows I have something wierd going on and if she stops me to kiss me, my rejection reaction is too automatic to stop. This whole thing obviously reduces our intimate contact and also as a result our sex. We do have sex but not enough and its perculiar as well, because I always have to do the initiation but once we start foreplay she is done within a few minutes leaving me in charge of my own orgasm which somehow seems pointless but my only reward for starting the whole thing, so I'm constantly feeling deflated about my intimacy needs and sex which I need to resolve to help me feel positive about any future with my partner.

Any good ideas would be a real relief.

Ian.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: zodium
Thu, 04-12-2007 - 11:35am

It sounds as though there is a deeper problem here with sex, affection and intimacy between the two of you than can be handled in an answer online. I strongly suggest that the two of you seek

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Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: zodium
Thu, 04-12-2007 - 12:58pm

Welcome zodium,


I have to agree with Dr Shoshanna.