Problem position

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-17-2003
Problem position
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Sat, 06-19-2004 - 3:43am
My wife and I have been married for 8 years and together for 13. For the first time this morning she revealed something to me that suggests she has bad memories of a previous sexual relationship - something she had never brought up before. She said that she has 'psychological issues' with being 'on-top' when we make love - it brings back bad memories.

I need help on the best way to support my wife through this.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-09-2004
In reply to: anfield1
Sat, 06-19-2004 - 12:04pm
Hmmmm, it sounds like your wife has been hurt by someone, perhaps as a child being molested or in an unwanted, or uncomfortable relationship before you. It sounds like she is wanting to open up to you about something that is painful and is checking to see if she can trust you with her emotions. Take care.