Problem with strippers?
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|Wed, 05-28-2003 - 1:33pm|
Recently - the past 4-6 months or so - he has started going out to the strip clubs every time his brother comes to town to visit, which is about twice a month. (His brother is newly-wed with two children. Go figure.) Sometimes it's both Friday and Saturday nights they go out, and it's always all night - they'll leave at 1am and come home around 6am. If they leave later, they come home later. I feel bad and cry every time it goes on. I don't understand it. We are/were very close until this started happening. And I've asked him if there's a problem - if I'm not satisfying him enough, etc. I know myself this is absolutley untrue (although I still had to ask, as a way of letting him know it bothered me) because we are together sexually every single night. No joke. Once in a while we'll be together 5 or 6 times in a week versus every night. So it's not that. And he said he is very happy sexually. And on top of that, I'm 5"8, 125lbs and very athletic - those trashy sluts at the club are gross compared to me . . . .yet he goes and the next day he's still got glitter all over his face when he gets out of bed. I hate to even think about it. And when I try to explain how it hurts me and that I can't understand the whole concept, he'll say , "oh, that old fu**in' story" or "baby, just be quiet. you're the one I want to be with". And then he says I'm insecure about the situation, which he feels is even more stupid on my part. Now let's see, I look great, act great, have fabulous sex, etc. yet you're going to go out and pay for gross women to do whatever - in front of 200 other people. Makes sense to me. Ha!
He also does this type of bullsh*t in front of me. We were at the lake this past weekend and the big thing was for the females to show their breasts and get beads. He didn't hesitate to initiate this whole concept, right in front of my eyes. He actually had a girl swim over to him, get out, show him within two feet of face, and gave her like 10 strings of beads. She wasn't even all that, either. Right in front of me!!!!!!!!!
If he only knew how my image, perception, thoughts,and feelings have changed about him. Am I being totally stupid and irrational about this? Do ALL men do this or does my man seem to have a problem? That's kind of the conclusion I've come to.
I know it's definitley not me. I'm about ready to make my own moves in this area - do some stuff on my own to make me feel better. Anybody have any ideas, suggestions???? The last straw for me is to tell him that there is a time and place for everything and that it's a disrespectful crock of sh*t that he would do that in front of me. The strip club thing - still no idea on that one. Quit trying to understand and do something on my own to make me feel better. Yeah - and then feel horrible for months after????!!!!? Help!!!!!