puppy love or real love???
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puppy love or real love???
| Sun, 09-05-2004 - 1:54am |
well, i have been dating this guy for about 1 1/2 years and i am unsure of sticking with him. for the first 9 months he was lying to me but just a few months ago he confessed to me. it was mostly lies about drugs which i didn't want him to do. now he plans on staying clean. it is a first love for both of us and we are both really young. i have a suspicion that he is still lying to me and not just about drugs. i guess my question is should I stay and try to make this relationship last or should explore the other fish in the sea?
ps. if you have any questions please ask & thanks for taking your time to read this!!!

Pianoguy wishes you had provided a "snapshot" of yourself along with your post...since his mind is conjuring up all kinds of BEAUTIFUL IMAGES connected with your name.
Here are the basics...
Your b/f has been lying to you for 9 months...drugs are more important to him than you are and YOUR TRUST FACTOR with him has been SHATTERED!
Why in the world would you even want to date this drug-induced idiot? Especially when there are thousands of fun, sexy, gorgeous, guys who don't need "artificial stimulants" to get turned when they're dating a pretty woman like you!
I'll bet you can do a lot better...if you give yourself the chance?
Pianoguy
Anyway, you have a right to be worried. In my experience if a guy is lying about one thing, esp for so long, there is a good chance he may not be truthful with a lot of other things. What kind of things do you think he's lying about? I think if I were you I'd start looking in greener fields. You don't need someone who is going to lie to you and do drugs behind your back...or in front of you. I'm sure you really love him, but if he loved you as much as you deserve he wouldn't be lying and you wouldn't be getting bad feelings.
Good luck! Lindsay
If he appears to be a good guy on the surface, date him for a period of time to determine who he really is, and move on to the next if you decide he is not. While you won't always know at first glance if a guy is honest, paying close attention to his behavior, the behavior of his friends, watching to see if his words match his actions, and to see if he takes responsibility for his choices will help you make the best choices for yourself. Never ignore or make excuses for anyone who behaves in a way you believe is wrong. Don't let fear of loneliness or misplaced guilt prevent you from leaving a relationship that is wrong for you. Not even real love can turn wrong into right.