Q-re: a friendship with a man.
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| Mon, 05-31-2004 - 12:53am |
My problem today is: Since he calls me so much, we pretty much know what each other is doing most of the time. He left yesterday to go see his father who is in the hospital. It is about an hour drive. He called me as he was leaving work about 2:50 and said he was stopping my his sisters house to check on her animals because she is out of town. He calls me back about 20 minutes later and said that he was going to take care of some business and call me back later.
He always talks to me when he is on the road. After not hearing from him, I called at 6:15pm. It really sounded like he answered his cellphone and quickly turned it off. I got the message "call failed" on my phone. So I called again and his phone was off. I was already having a vision in my mind. I know his ex-girlfriend and his dad are really close. I have a suspicion that she went with him to spend the weekend down visiting his dad. He finally called me at 9:40pm. He said that his phone was off when I called because he was in the hospital visiting. (I understand that). I carefully played 20 questions with him and I asked what he had been up to. He said that he saw his dad for an hour and now he was sleeping. The timing doesn't add up. I could hear that he was outside and he said he was out front of the hospital going to his car. After a few minutes he said that he was going back inside to get some over the counter medicine for himself. He said he'd call me back. He didn't call, so I called at 10:20pm. His phone just rang. I wanted to go to sleep and couldn't stay awake much longer.
He called at 8:30am this morning. I could tell he was outside again and he said he was in front of a coffee store. He said that the cell signal is bad in the area (it is true in that area) and he could hardly get a signal on his cell phone. That is why he didn't call back. He said he slept at his sisters house on the couch which is about 20 minutes from the hospital. He said he was tired and didn't get much sleep since he didn't go to bed until 1:00am. He said he would call me back later, but hasn't.
I'm thinking that if he calls me when he get's home tomorrow, that my suspicions are pretty good that the ex was with him. When I asked why he didn't call on the way there, he said he was on the phone the entire time. My theory is that the ex. picked him up from work and drove with him to see his dad. That would be why he didn't call.
If this is true, I wish he had just come out and told me this was what he was going to do this weekend. I wouldn't be sitting here wondering. I know I have no right being jealous, but we do so many things together.This happened about a year ago also. He called on the road to a friends house which was an hour away and said that his cell battery was weak and that he was going to turn it off. The phone was off and I didn't hear from him for 26 hours. He called from the car and said that he was just coming back from a store which is in the opposite direction of where he would have been coming from. It was the direction of the Ex's. I know also for a fact that he lied to me about 1 1/2 years ago when he told me he and his other sister were going to see his another sister (the one 1 hour away). The one sister was going to drive. I saw him coming out of 7-11 and getting into the ex's car. I never said anything.
Question: Do I point blank ask him if she was with him this weekend? I don't want to ruin our friendship because it means so much to me. TO lose him and his friendship would be devasdating. What do I do? I know I really need to get more friends! He is the only person I am close too. He has helped me thru so much.
Thanks.
Trudy

i think you need to expand your social circle.
I agree. Analysing the every move of a friend when a couple of hours aren't accounted for means you need to get a life ;)
Are you involved with school, work, church, volunteering?