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Registered: 06-26-2003
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Mon, 10-06-2008 - 9:52am

Hi Everyone-

I am pretty intuitive but sometimes that gets clouded. My husband and i have been together for over 6 yrs and have 2 small kids. He suffers from depression and it has really take a toll. He has just started to address it and while i am starting to see small improvements, i just feel very unsure. I know this is a slow recovery process but it has been a rough couple of years. This probably sounds crazy but he has 70 photos on his facebook page and not one of me....He even has several of his sister in law whom he cant stand. He also never mentions being married.

My ex boyfriend did this same thing years ago...i always felt like he didnt acknowledge me and then i found out he really acted like i didnt exist. (Literally-people he worked with didnt know he lived with someone for several years)

That really did a number on my self esteem. I love my husband and my children, but i honestly dont think i can go thru the whole "invisible" thing again. It took years to get over that. I do want us to work but this is so reminiscent of the beginning of the end last time. thoughts? thanks

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-30-2008
In reply to: sashadog13
Mon, 10-06-2008 - 2:05pm
I think it is very odd that he not include you in his life on the facebook page.
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Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: sashadog13
Mon, 10-06-2008 - 2:31pm

Welcome to the board sashadog13,


Since you have issue with being 'invisible' from your past and it's bothering you, I highly recommend you invite your husband to counseling to discuss it if you can't do it any other way.


Reading material to consider:


Relationship Rescue, Phil McGraw
Getting the Love You Want, Harville Hendrix


My best to you.





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