Question?

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Registered: 09-27-2004
Question?
Wed, 10-20-2004 - 1:48pm
My best guy friend, which I know you have seen my previous posts about him, is acting weird. He tells me that he thinks that I think of him as a man whore and he feels like when he tells me something I believe he is lying to me. I have had a problem with trusting him, but no matter what I say he doesn't get over it. We have been distant and when we are together something isn't right. I can not put my finger on it. I think that we argue so much, it's hard for us to be around each other. I love him dearly and know that he loves me, but something is wrong. Dont' get confused when I say I love him, I do, but not as if I would jump into an intimate relationship w/ him. Maybe in the future. We have been having conversations about arguments we have been in recently or trying to make up and I leave feeling as he is just pacifying me by making me think everything is ok and it isn't. Have we just argued and made up so much that all of those things are jogged in our memory? Is that what is making it hard to move on? I have insecurities, but doesn't everyone? We are taking a vacation together in a few weeks and I feel like he is pacifying me for the time being so that we can make this trip together. I don't want to feel this way. I have told him this and he says that is not it and tells me to be quiet. Then he hugs me and says I love you and acts as if we are ok. Is he pacifying me or telling the truth?