A question about why he's changed???

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Registered: 01-02-2004
A question about why he's changed???
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Mon, 04-19-2004 - 8:48am
Well, not really sure if there is even a problem. I'm guessing there isn't, but before I go asking him (the man) something stupid, I thought I would get some input from you great folks here. First, I wrote a while ago about him being one sided and selfish, etc. So, I kinda sat him down and had a talk with him. And well, since "the talk" his actions have been great. He's been doing his part around the house, initiates more in bed, Has been more relaxed and in a good mood when he gets home from work rather than his usual bear self. A couple weeks ago, he even said he's been happier with me now than he's been in a long time. His actions say he loves me, but one thing the old guy used to do was TELL me he loves me. It's been weeks since I've heard that. Well, I should clarify that. Yesterday in the car, he jokingly said (cuz I'm on a diet and can't eat sweets) he says "I love you hunny, but I've got me a Mr. Goodbar and I have to eat it.." (was trying to say he wasn't purposly being unsupportive of my diet, just couldn't resist the darn bar...) but that's the first and last time he's said "I love you" to me in WEEKS. And I haven't heard "I'm in love with you" in months. Is there any logical explanation for this change? His actions say he's more loving toward me, but now I've lost the words. I know there are those who NEVER feel comfortable saying it but he used to. Anyway, the stupid thing I want to avoid saying to him is, "Hunny, I feel like you love me and are in love with me, but you haven't said either in a long time... has something changed that you'd like to talk about?" Cuz then I just think that would open an unnecessairy can of worms... Any thoughts??

Much appreciated,

Pam

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Registered: 04-17-2003
Mon, 04-19-2004 - 10:50am
What is his response when you tell him that you love him?

 

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Mon, 04-19-2004 - 11:40am
When I tell him I love him (which I've backed off some too.. I want him to say it first once in a while..) I get the canned response in a monotone voice "love you too". Sounds like he's saying it more like he has to, rather than he wants to, ya know??