question of logic

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Registered: 04-19-2006
question of logic
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Mon, 08-13-2007 - 11:49am
My boyfriend and I have been together for over three years now, neither of us has ever cheated on the other, however it seems impossible for us to trust each-other not to cheat, especially on my side. I have had others cheat on my before and it seems to have washed away by ability to trust anyone concerning infidelity. People call this irrational, but i don't think it is. If it’s true that the majority of men and women cheat it doesn't seem logical to me to trust someone not to do it in the first place. Are the any real couples that will never cheat on each-other? Is that even a realistic scenario?
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Mon, 08-13-2007 - 2:18pm

Welcome to the board smilodon2006,


Well, I think counseling for you could go a long way in healing the past and what you've experienced.

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Registered: 09-30-2005
Mon, 08-13-2007 - 5:10pm

Welcome to the board smildon2006,


I agree with Carrie that counseling would be very helpful for you. It is not true that majority of men and women cheat. There are many, many couples that don't cheat on each other. It is a very realistic scenario. I am sorry that your past relationships have left you so jaded.

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Registered: 04-19-2006
Tue, 08-14-2007 - 11:02am
Thank you for you time in reading my post and commenting. Its just I get statistics thrown in my face like every day- 60% of men cheat, 40-50% of women cheat or something along those lines. I have everyone from teachers to my parents try to explain to me that cheating is natural and fidelity is not. It’s just hard to see past it when it seems like everyone accepts it. I've also been labeled a feminist, (not that feminism is a bad thing) just because i believe that fidelity is the right thing to do, its nice to see that there are actually other people who feel the same way.
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Registered: 09-30-2005
Tue, 08-14-2007 - 11:51am
I am sorry you have so many people telling you cheating is natural. No wonder you are confused and worried about it.
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