The questions are driving me crazy

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-17-2003
The questions are driving me crazy
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Thu, 10-11-2007 - 11:48am

the other was looking for something and i went into my b/f's junk drawer thinking i would find what i needed. What i found instead was a card from his ex girlfriend with a picture from both of them. In the card she wrote how much she loved him she couldn't imagine her life without him blah.. blah blah....

I know it's stupid and everyone has baggage, even me, but i can't stop thinking about it. We have so many plans for the future. We talk about marriage and kids and spending the rest of our lives together. And now all I can think is what if the two of them made the same promises to each other. And look at where they are now. they were together for 5 years. I don't know what happened in their relationship b/c he doesn't discuss it, only says they fought a lot and they agreed to break up. And I know that nothing guarantees that a relationship will broke up. But, I guess i am losing faith in our relationship. And i feel like my insecurity is going to make me jeopardize what we already have. And he refuses to talk to me about it. I am going crazy. i want to write a lot more but then the board would be so much longer. Should i tell him how i feel and open up about my insecurities or should i leave it alone or should i talk to someone else?

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Registered: 09-30-2005
Thu, 10-11-2007 - 12:16pm

Welcome to the board iv_leidy101,


There is no reason that seeing a picture of them together and a card from her should make you feel so insecure. Just because they had problems in their relationship doesn't mean you will have problems in yours. And remember, if their relationship had worked out you wouldn't be together today.


If you really feel that you have a problem with insecurity, consider seeing a therapist.


Best of luck to you.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Thu, 10-11-2007 - 2:21pm

Welcome to the board iv_leidy101,


I want you to remember something - any time anyone gets their picture taken (9 times out of 10) the people ALWAYS smile even if they aren't having a good time.


Do you think it would help you if he talked about the break up?