Racist/Catholic Parents&The Perfect Man
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| Fri, 10-17-2008 - 11:53am |
I'm 27 and have been with Derek who's the same age a little over 18 months now. He really is the man of my dreams in every way imaginable, barely leaving my side being simply amazing during my cancer treatment for Leukemia which started about 6 months into our relationship.
I got the all clear two weeks ago and he proposed to me 5 days ago in the most romantic way possible. Everything was going so great until I brought him home to meet my very conservative and simply racist parents who treated him like pond scum the second they realized he was half black. He was implacably polite to them regardless for my sake and I couldn't possibly feel worse about it.
My mother simply has no filter and attacked everything from his home town to his occupation as a software engineer and I spend most of the dinner there trying not to choke them. His family who's a lot less wealthy than mine are the in-laws every girl’s wishes she had and made me feel like part of the family from day one.
It's like the fact that I quite possibly might not have made it through the last few months without him doesn't ever matter to them.The're threatening to cut me out of their will and completely disown me if I don't end it with him right away.
I don't want to lose him but I don't want to lose my family either. What should I do?

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Britney80,
I am so sorry to hear you are going through this.
I am really sorry for your situation. Announcing your engagement should be a very joyous occasion not one that adds further stress.
If he is the perfect man you fight. Be blunt with your family tell them that they are out of line and need to change with the times. Tell them what he has done for you that he is your other half. Tell them if they can not support you then they can not be a part of your life.
Good luck with you and hopefully your upcoming marriage.
Welcome to the board britney80,
I agree with mdesi5555
I know I posted a reply to this one and, once again, it got deleted. I am sooo tired of ivillage harassing me and targetting my posts to delete.
Hi sugarbaby_gal,
If a post is deleted it was say 'deleted'. If it disappeared it could be your browser.
I checked the other boards first..to make sure that I was correct in my assumption.
My browser is internet explorer - I dont use my internet service provider's browser (I know better than to use theirs). And the browser I use is fine. I dont post much so because of the percentage of deleted posts is high I know there is something weird going on - because I double check to see that once I post and I go back to the board where I posted I visually SEE my post and then the next day...(or same day) *poof* - it disappears.
Hey sugarbaby, you did reply to her post on the Dating Expert board:
http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rldatingdil&msg=33324.5
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