rather strange problem

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Registered: 03-16-2004
rather strange problem
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Wed, 05-26-2004 - 1:47pm
im 23 and i have an elder sister who is 28. i went out with this guy for about two and a half years.i met him in 1999. it didnt work out because we landed up in different corners of the world and i did not want to carry it on as a long distance relationship. last year my sister and him happened to meet...and last month they got married! yes she does know about 'us' and how he had even asked me to marry him before i finally called it off..but they seem really happy and YES i am happy for her...BUT it just is the most uncomfortable situation to be in. i do try to keep out of their way as much as possible but shes my sister!!! what on earth do i do???
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 05-26-2004 - 2:28pm

Yes, I can see how this could be very uncomfortable for you. Just give them their space and focus on building your own life. Perhaps when you meet someone you care for and marry, it will be easier to be with them. Time does wonders - and so does the fact of your having a new life and someone for yourself in it who is meaningful to you.


All good wishes.