RE: Lies, Lies and more Lies

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Registered: 07-27-2002
RE: Lies, Lies and more Lies
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Mon, 06-14-2004 - 9:39am
My husband had the NERVE to ask me the other day Who was more important to me My boys or him..CAN YOU BELEIVE THAT. He told me that in the bible the husband is suppose to come first. But were talking about a verbal abusive stepfather here of only a couple of months. I beleive in the bible they are talking about the bio father. He said you need to choose who is more important OMG...GROW UP. Of course I said my boys :)

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 06-15-2004 - 1:39pm
Please.....your boys have NEVER been your priority and whatis valued as being raised as responsible, self-aware, self-accepting adults.

You've always given, done, sacrificed, expended and endured for them...but you've never had "them and their lives as adults and being lived successfully by them as independent adults" on your schedule of values and priorities.

Otherwise, you wouldn't be even considering doing anything but divorcing this man and getting on with "raising them, while restructuring your life".

He's just asking if you won't do more....of what you've done all along - give him what he wants, needs, demands, ,expects so that you'll get his temporary approval - at the expense of yourself and your kids - because that is what he wants you to do.

He's just asking if you'll continue to do - what you've already done, and are still seriously considering doing more of.

He's not 'out of his mind" to ask you to do it....you're out of your right mind for having done it to date...that you're considering doing more of it......is good enough reason to have you committed or institutionalized.

Erin

quickblade14@hotmail.com

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Registered: 02-10-2004
Wed, 06-16-2004 - 9:42am
You have got to be joking! What is wrong with you? Why are you still communicating with this abusive man? Are you a glutton for punishment? What on earth could he possibly have to say that you need to hear?

Why are you still allowing communication? You really need to get your priorities in order. Stop all contact with this man - no good will come of it.

Coolas

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