Really can't stand it anymore

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Registered: 02-24-2005
Really can't stand it anymore
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Sun, 05-18-2008 - 12:18am
Ok, This is what happened.
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Registered: 12-22-2007
Sun, 05-18-2008 - 12:34am

Hi Veryin2itive


I agree that it seems like

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Registered: 02-24-2005
Sun, 05-18-2008 - 12:49am
My husband said "Where is my green chair?"
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Registered: 02-20-2007
Sun, 05-18-2008 - 9:29am

If your husband has felt left out of decisions before, then this was a culmination of many other events and he just snapped. That's what happens to people who are already frustrated. I'm not defending his behavior, but maybe for these reasons he feels ganged up on by you and your son. In this case it was you and Matt vs. Dad. If the chair belonged to him, even if he didn't use it then obviously he should have been involved in what happens to that piece of furniture and it's not yours to one-sidedly give away. I do hope you understand that and to rectify this situation, it may take an apology on your behalf and a promise to try to be more of a team with him.

My dad said to me once that as a family we are a team, but as a married couple he and mom are their own team and will always be that way before everything else. It was kind of tough to hear as a kid, but he was essentially telling me that I would never come between them. I think this was when I came to him because I was mad at mom over something she said to me, and he refused to get involved against her. So I understand now that it's not right for a parent and child to unite IN SPITE of a marriage, mom and dad always have to be an inseparable team. This meant a lot to me when he said it and I hope maybe it sparks something for you too.

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Registered: 02-24-2005
Sun, 05-18-2008 - 10:24am
You are right about me not consulting him first.
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Registered: 02-20-2007
Sun, 05-18-2008 - 3:06pm
"As far as how he went about it, I will not apologize to him for that. "
I'm not suggesting that... You never have to apologize for someone else's actions. That was his responsibility.