Really confused

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-06-2007
Really confused
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Sun, 02-17-2008 - 2:25pm
My ex who I still have feelings for and by all accounts sounds like she still has feelings for me ended up at the same bar last night. We talked and hugged but nothing big. At least I did not think so. She was kind of acting like she did not want to leave but she had to go to a birthday party. After I left the bar and it closed she called my cell. Here is what I am confused on. She made a comment about she does not like for me to
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-30-2005
In reply to: s174153
Mon, 02-18-2008 - 12:38pm

Welcome to the board s174153,


Maybe she feels she isn't a good dance when she has been drinking and was embarrassed.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-06-2007
In reply to: s174153
Mon, 02-18-2008 - 12:46pm

I asked her last night what she meant. She said she did not want to upset me. That she does dance with guys that are her friends and does not want to hurt me to if I see her with someone. I just can not figure why my feelings still matter if she left me?

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-30-2005
In reply to: s174153
Mon, 02-18-2008 - 12:48pm
I don't know. You should ask her.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: s174153
Mon, 02-18-2008 - 2:03pm

Welcome to the board s174153,


Maybe she's embarassed for you to see her 'move on' and really doesn't want to hurt you.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-06-2007
In reply to: s174153
Mon, 02-18-2008 - 2:23pm

I am sure she has moved on. I am trying to move on. When she does things like this it makes me take steps backward. She even went as far as tell me she only had

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: s174153
Mon, 02-18-2008 - 2:37pm

::I want her to have to come to me. I am tired of chasing her.


Then I suggest you stop seeing her at the bar. Stop going if need be.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-06-2007
In reply to: s174153
Mon, 02-18-2008 - 3:12pm

I understand. That bar was one I have never been to. I usually go to a different one and hang out. I got drunk that night and someone suggested the other bar so I agreed to go. I really wish I hadn't.