really upset

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Registered: 01-05-2004
really upset
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Sun, 06-13-2004 - 3:44pm
ok here is the thing me and my bf we been going out for 5 months and everything is going very well we love each other and although we didnt get off to a great start we really have grown into a great couple. Since we first met we have seen each other every weekend and we both enjoy doing fun stuff together. Recently his best friend has become single and this is causing a problem and I dont know what to do about it the past two weekends he tells me he dosent want to loose his best friend and that his friend is getting mad because he wants to go out and he cant becuase he is with me so last weekend I got upset when he cancelled plans with me to go with his friend to a club I thought it was un called for so I was really upset so he just hanged out with him a little and ended up meeting me bc I told him I was gonna go to a club also. So now this weeekend I wanted to hang out and he tells me he is going to the hamptons its a big singles hot spot in ny. With his friend just like that dosent even ask me. So I got upset and he told me I cant keep doing this everytime he goes out with his friend which upsets me is he just totally disregards my feelings and his friend says he wants to hook up with gilrs and be crazy this summer and im mad i think if you have a girlfriend you shouldnt be doing stuff like this the same way i know he wouldnt want me to go. I dont know what to do abou this situation I feel its either you have a girlfriend and do couple things or if you want to go out then dont go to these kinds of places just be single then. I need help on what to do in this sitaution.
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Registered: 05-20-2003
In reply to: beddamafia
Sun, 06-13-2004 - 5:57pm
'he just totally disregards my feelings '

Does he really or does he want to balance his friends and his girlfriend? What exactly is he doing when he is out with them? Does his friend want to see him all of the time or just once a week? If he is picking up on girls and lying to you about it that is one thing. If you trust him and want him to have fun with his friends who were probably there before you then support this balance and enjoy time with your friends too.