rebuilding marriage I hope

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Registered: 05-29-2008
rebuilding marriage I hope
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Thu, 05-29-2008 - 10:34am

My husband and I have been a couple for 20 years and married 11.5 years,with 4 beautiful children here with us, and 1 in heaven.We separated September 1,2007 due to him seeking affection or whatever else,from a girl he works(ed) with,he says nothing physical ever happened she

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Registered: 09-30-2005
Thu, 05-29-2008 - 12:30pm

Welcome to the board hrtbroken2,


I am sorry for the loss of your daughter.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Thu, 05-29-2008 - 1:05pm

Welcome to the board hrtbroken2,


Sorry for your loss....that's really hard.

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Registered: 05-29-2008
Thu, 05-29-2008 - 2:48pm

Thank you for your advice,I myself have tried the no sex thing many times and it is sooooo hard not to give in.I keep trying though and eventually I will stick to my guns I hope. As far as the counseling goes we have not discussed it,we havent actually agreed to try to make this work.It is what I want but I'm not sure what he wants.He has only just stated that he is not going to talk to anymore females until he knows for sure there is nothing more between us,so it has just been a VERY slow process which has sucked but also in some ways has brought us closer together in some areas we werent before.I think thats why its hard for me to say no sex because on that level I feel ALOT more secure and open with him then I ever have.