Rebuilding self-esteem
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Rebuilding self-esteem
| Mon, 03-29-2004 - 10:32am |
After finding out that my boyfriend of 3 years was seeing another girl for a few months, I was devastated. He thought she was very pretty and he was attracted to her. Even though he has ended all contact with her now and we are working to rebuild our relationship, it's getting harder and harder. I feel so insecure about myself and compare myself with every girl that remotely looks like her. I feel so ugly and unattractive. My bf tells me I am beautiful all the time but now I don't believe it anymore. I just feel so down. How do I make myself feel better? What can I do? Help!

Learning to Love Yourself: Finding Your Self-Worth, by Sharon Wegscheider Cruse
How to Raise Your Self-Esteem, Nathaniel Brandon
The Aladdin Factor, Jack Canfield & Mark Victor Hansen
The Magic of Thinking Big, David J. Schwartz
Reading material to help rebuild the relationship:
Infidelity: A Survival Guide by Don-David
After the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful -- Janis Abrahms
Surviving Infidelity: Making Decisions, Recovering from the Pain by Rona Subotnik, Gloria Harris
Straight Talk About Betrayal: A Self-Help Guide for Couples by Donna R. Bellafiore
Most couple's can't rebuild without counseling. The betrayal, cheating issues must be addressed.
Carrie
Best of luck to you. I can feel what you're feeling.