Reconciling to find out it isn't working

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-20-2004
Reconciling to find out it isn't working
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Sat, 08-21-2004 - 11:19am
Anyone reconciled and within 2 months realized it wasn't working? Is this enuf time to know that you should say goodbye or should it be given longer? Betrayed twice now.
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Registered: 07-25-2004
Sat, 08-21-2004 - 12:47pm
wow. im going thru the same thing right now. we were split for 2 months this time and recently got back together (we still lived together thru the separation, had separate bedrooms) I know how you feel tho because right now, I feel so defeated again like nothing has changed. He ended the engagement and he's the one who came back and while we were apart, he was doing things he KNEW I wanted him to do. Now that I have agreed to give it another try, its back the way it was. It's only been TWO WEEKS. In fact, we had a huge blowup about it last night and I ended up leaving, not coming home til almost 2 am. I'm wondering too if im wasting my time....
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Registered: 08-20-2004
Sat, 08-21-2004 - 4:35pm
thanks for reply. The more I read and chat with folks on here I am beginning to feel it could take years to rebuild and there is no guarantee he won't do it again. If I go thru this hurt one time and say goodbye now it just seems I could save myself less grief. I think once the trust is gone it is for a long time to come. He deceived me so badly.