Refused Flowers after Serious for 3 Months
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|Sat, 09-28-2013 - 10:08am|
I met this girl on Christian Mingle. Through talking she said that she has traditional family values like mine. Two months into talking on the phone, I hid my profile and asked to fly to see her. We spent 47 together hours over that trip and had a great time. After I got back I bought a ticket for a month later when she said for me to come and she bought a ticket for a month later to come see me. A week before the trip she got a big promotion, so I asked if I could send flowers to congratulate her. She said she I was not allowed to send them. I said I just wanted to be nice and show I care and am proud of her. She said she’d think about it, and then actively ignored all communication from me for three days. She then said she was so angry for me wanting to send flowers seeing them as “Territorial.”
With two upcoming trips planned and 3 hour conversations every other day for three months now, I asked if she saw me in any way as a boyfriend. She quickly said a clear “No,” and that she didn’t want to be exclusive. But she still wanted to see me. I’m very traditional in courtship and this ate at me. After several days she still had this stance, so I said I can’t continue because I’m getting to attached to her for this to not be exclusive especially with planning complex trips far out.
Then she immediately flipped to asking me to be her boyfriend and to be exclusive. No one I’ve talked to understands this. Should I believe this change? Help.