relationship blues

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Registered: 10-08-2008
relationship blues
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Wed, 10-08-2008 - 2:57am
I have a been with my fiance for 4 years now and the sex used to be great, but now I'm lucky if it last for 30 minutes and I don't climax, it seems if all he is worried about is satisfying himself any suggestions!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Registered: 12-22-2007
Wed, 10-08-2008 - 5:16am

Have you spoken to him about it?

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Registered: 09-30-2005
Wed, 10-08-2008 - 10:21am

Welcome to the board bitcwatude,


If you haven't talked to him about this then you need to. Make sure to address the issue outside the bedroom though.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 10-08-2008 - 11:43am

It sounds as though the excitement, appreciation and intimacy are gone. That's not good. You need to work on re-building them. Sounds as though he's taking you for granted. This is not a recepie for a happy marriage. To begin, don't take yourself for granted. Realize what it is you need and want in a relationship and ask for it. Don't accept something that is making you unhappy. Let him know how you feel and what you need. If he is unwilling to work on things to make it mutual, lively and fulfilling, then, clearly this is not the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. Relationships take work, committment and consideration. Sounds like a good couple's therapist would be of help right now.


Best wishes,

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Wed, 10-08-2008 - 11:54am

Welcome to the board bitcwatude,


Interesting username.


I have the same questions - have you talked to him and what does he say?