Relationship Complex

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Registered: 01-23-2004
Relationship Complex
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Fri, 01-23-2004 - 12:13pm
My boyfriend and I have been together for two years. I'm still in school, we don't live that far from on another, so he use to come and see me everyday to come see me when I got home and I would come over to his place on tuedays and thursdays. But, now he doesn't come to see me at all, and he doesn't have a phone so he can't call me but he uses his friends phone when he sees him.

My problem is that he says hes going to come see me but he doesn't and he doesn't call either, although when he does call he says that he forgot to come. I want to know what you thnk. What should I do? Am I making something out of nothing or should I truly be concerned?
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Registered: 08-04-2003
Fri, 01-23-2004 - 12:36pm
Hon, he's not making much effort to spend time with you, see you, stop by, etc.....sounds like he only stops by when he wants to. What about you? What do you want?


Carrie

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Registered: 01-23-2004
Fri, 01-23-2004 - 1:02pm
First thank you for replying, I want to be with him but if he can't make the time to see me then I don't need to be with, thats how feel, but, I do want it last because this is the only problem we've had in the time that we've been together.
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Registered: 08-04-2003
Fri, 01-23-2004 - 1:19pm
Then have a discussion about future goals....where does he see the relationship going, what is he doing to build a future for him, you, and the two of you as a couple. Ask about his goals and dreams? About how you feel about him not seeing you, not having the means to see you or to communicate with you. See if you can work out some agreement.


Carrie

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Registered: 01-23-2004
Mon, 01-26-2004 - 1:16pm
We talk about our future and his plans for us in the future. I asked him about why he hasn't come to see me, he told me what was going on (it was personal) and he told me that he was sorry, he just had a lot on his mind. He said he wanted to come see me but he couldn't. So I'm hoping that once he hads whats going on then hopefully things will change.