Relationship counseling - does it work?
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Relationship counseling - does it work?
| Fri, 06-25-2004 - 12:26pm |
SO and I are pretty much at the end. We go about 3 days before a meltdown. There are lots of reasons here: lack of affection (from her), high expectations (from me), clashing libidos, etc.
We finally reached a point a yesterday where we were ready to walk. But, of course, we still love each other. Some here may question that, but just because there are problems doesn't mean love can't exist. Or that it isn't worth saving.
My question: she suggested relationship counseling, but I've heard that's usually the last step in a relationship before it's over. I personally know 1 out of 8 couples that have gone through it that have survived; the others ended it.
Does anyone have any experience with this? How does it work? DOES it work??
Thanks all~

i agree that many couples do break up after counseling. i don't know what the statistics are - but you need to understand that couples who go to counseling are usually couples who are at the end of their rope, are dealing with multiple issues, and breaking up is inevitable - counseling or no counseling.
OTOH - there are couples who go to counseling and come out stronger - and their relationshp is stronger.
if nothing else - counseling can help YOU (individually) to deal with YOUR issues and so that in your NEXT relationship (be it romantic, work, housing) YOU will be a stronger individual.
counseling is not a magic pill. and not every counselor is good. sometimes you will have to shop around to find someone that you both feel comfortable with. and counseling takes ALOT of work on your side as well as the ability to REALLY listen to what the other side is saying.
i am one of those who went to couples counseling and am now in the process of geting divorced. but i assure you that oiur marriage was horrible and i am very happy that i did go to counseling because *I* gained alot from it.