Relationship gone stale???

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Registered: 04-30-2007
Relationship gone stale???
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Fri, 09-07-2007 - 11:22pm
I've been with my boyfriend for two years now. A couple weeks ago after a cruise, for some reason I think it might have helped us become closer. He started calling me more, wanting to hang out. But lately it seems so boring. I haven't seen him in a few days because I'm in college and he's working and I also work. It doesn't help that his family is too close to him and always wanting to spend time with him on his only day off this week. When we talk on the phone it's like nothing is there....I feel like I'm the only one trying to have a conversation and still it's NOTHING it can be like 5 minutes and no one is saying nothing. I've told him to try to talk about something interesting and I've complained so many times but he doesn't get it. I feel like I don't have a boyfriend...
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Registered: 02-20-2007
Sat, 09-08-2007 - 9:31am

To play the pessimist for a minute, some relationships just fizzle out. Two people lose their connection and go their separate ways, becoming bored with one another. If you have been trying to bring back the passion in your relationship for some time without avail, perhaps it is time to accept that you're not meant to be together. You shouldn't waste too much time in a relationship that bores and stifles you. It was a great idea to take a cruise together and if you use that time wisely it really SHOULD bring you closer together. Try a couple more times to do things to reestablish a connection to him, go out once in a while, pick up a new activity together, write one another letters, go off and do things individually so you have something to talk about.

I wouldn't try too hard to force something that isn't there anymore, though - I've been where you are before and it seems that ~2 years is where people slowly fall out of love with one another or keep going strong.