relationship help needed!

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Registered: 08-02-2007
relationship help needed!
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Thu, 08-02-2007 - 1:01pm
i've been dating this guy for almost 3 years now, and recently we have been having some relationship problems. we went out with one of his friends recently, and she seemed to be treating me sort of aloofly. he has mentioned that he has been talking with a lot of old friends recently, and i fear that he may be bad mouthing me to people i hardly know/haven't even met before. this bothers me to no end. is it wrong for me to worry about what he is saying to his friends, or am i overreacting? is it wrong for me to want him to discuss our problems with me rather than with a bunch of other people? any help or advice would be greatly appreciated!
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Registered: 09-30-2005
Thu, 08-02-2007 - 3:50pm

Welcome to the board miss_indecision,


My first thought was this female friend has a crush on him and that is why she was acting strangely toward you. I would just say something to him about the way she acted and see what he has to say.

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Registered: 08-02-2007
Thu, 08-02-2007 - 4:27pm
HELLO MISS INDECISION. I KNOW HOW YOU FEEL MY BF FOR THE LAST YEAR AND A HALF WAS ALWAYS TALKING TO HIS MOTHER AND EX GIRLFRIENDS ABOUT ME.WHATEVER FEELINGS YOU HAVE ABOUT WHATS HAPPENING YOU HAVE EVERY RIGHT TO FEEL I AGREE WITH YOU I DON'T KNOW THE WHOLE STORY BUT I DON'T THINK YOU ARE OVERREACTING. HE NEEDS TO BE MORE OPEN AND TALK WITH YOU. ITS SUPPOSE TO BE YOU AND HIS RELATIONSHIP NOT THEIRS. HOW ARE YOU SUPPOSE TO FIX YOUR RELATIONSHIP IF HE WON'T TELL YOU WHATS WRONG. TALK TO HIM AND ASK HIM TO BE OPEN AND HONEST WITH YOU AND YOU WILL DO THE SAME FOR HIM.