Relationship issues and now im prego

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Registered: 02-21-2008
Relationship issues and now im prego
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Thu, 02-21-2008 - 3:56pm

I am seriously confused, hurt, and worried to death. My bf and I have been on again off again for two years now. He means everything in the world to me and I never wanted anything but to be with him. But, things just got more complicated. Im four weeks pregnant and a complete mess. You see, I dont trust my bf at all, and Im scared to death that he is going to mess around on me and I'll end up in this pregnancy alone. Every time we have gotten into arguments before, he has found refuge in another girl....four times now...including two months ago. He trains horses and is always around other girls at the barn and of course they all try to get to him and his track record is less than perfect in my eyes. Im a nervous wreck all day wondering what hes doing and who hes doing it with. His days are long and I usually only see him when he comes home for bed and thats it. He is so nonchalant about me being so worried about his history and my fear for me and my child. I panic with every phone call he gets, every hour hes away from me, and I just cant get any answers from him other than I shouldnt worry. I dont know what to do. I cant make it through this pregnancy on my own. What do I do? Do I give him a chance to prove himself? and at the same time I'm home in bed crying because I worry myself sick. What do I do to make him realize that this is a life change and that he cant be so damn selfish anymore????? Im gonna give myself a stroke or loose this baby from so much stress. HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Registered: 02-20-2007
Thu, 02-21-2008 - 7:51pm

You will feel better if you get him out of your life. You may think that all of this stress you have is better than being without him, but it isn't. If you're not keeping yourself healthy, and you plan on keeping your baby, then you need to start thinking about the best interests of the child you are having. It will not do either of you any favors to say in a relationship that is marred by mistrust and cheating.

Being a single mother is not the end of the world. Life will go on for you after this guy, and you will find someone who deserves you and treats you well. If you settle for a crappy boyfriend, your baby settles, too.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Thu, 02-21-2008 - 8:08pm

Welcome to the board gluten4punishment,


I hope you can find the strength to put your health and your baby first above this guy.