In a relationship with me or himself?
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| Wed, 09-24-2008 - 6:28pm |
I'm in a new relationship with a guy I've recently met. We've hit it off pretty well, have quite a bit common, and have lots of fun together. He makes me laugh. I make him laugh. He's a very talkative guy and while that's not a problem, the fact that I never get a word in IS a problem. He's chatty, but about himself. A lot of times if I say something, instead of acknowledging or digesting it, he launches into a related story about himself and then expects me to listen enthusiastically and respond, even though he doesn't do the same. I'll ask him how his day was and he'll tell me - but doesn't always ask about my day.
I've been in a relationship like this before. I was younger, less mature, and didn't have the tools or patience to see if it was something that could be helped. I dated this guy for two years and still felt like he didn't know me or take the time to be invested in my thoughts, feelings, and life.
I don't want to make the same mistake again and waste time on a relationship that is impossible, but I'm not ready to write off this new guy if there's hope that he can stop being so self-centered. Do you have any tips or ways to work on this kind of problem? It's just so hard to find a good guy and other than this, I am happy with him so I don't want to give up on us if I don't have to.
Thanks for listening,
Mary

Welcome to the board missmarymack08,
Sounds like it is all about him. However, if you haven't told him what you need/want, then he's not going to know that it bothers you.