relationship rut????

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Registered: 08-12-2004
relationship rut????
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Thu, 08-12-2004 - 8:58am
My partner of 2 years has a stressful job, as i do. The problem is i think we are stuck in a rut. I am really unhappy and don't know what to do. He doesn't show me any kind of affection except maybe an arm around me when i'm watching TV or a peck on the lips as we both leave for work. I have to instigate any kissing before we go to bed. We only make love in bed at night and we used to have it around 4 times per week, which has dwindled to once a week/fortnight. The sex is still fulfilling but i am getting fed up with the monotony of it. I have suggested having sex in different rooms at different times and even quickies in the day but he doesn't seem keen. I really want to talk to him about this but i'm not sure how well this will go down.

Any ideas??

Thalia_Moon

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 08-12-2004 - 9:19am
thalia moon...

Have you thought about arranging an outdoor picnic?

Drive to a secluded spot by a stream or the woods...prep a few sandwiches, chips and a bottle of wine...and then...YOU GET TO BE THE DESSERT! Maybe his "animal instincts" will reappear in a new location?

Seriously...if everything in your relationship has gotten to the "so-so, routine state", it might be wise to take some time away together? Everybody needs an occasional change. So locate a bed and breakfast or some thing that doesn't have any distractions...like a tv! This way...he can...err..concentrate on YOU a little bit more. Best of luck!

Pianoguy

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 08-12-2004 - 10:22am

Very often a combination of stress at work and the familiarity of an established reationship, including