in a relationship but still seing my ex
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in a relationship but still seing my ex
| Wed, 08-18-2004 - 10:58am |
have been dating this wonderful guy for about 5 months now...he is everything i ever wanted...we have talked about getting engaged in the nest year and everything. i still keep in touch with my ex-boyfriend (my BF has no idea of this) and recently we saw each other. we had a great time and ended up kissing. i have seen him once since then, and there was no physical contact, but, again...had fun. i don't feel physically attracted to him, but i do feel like i miss something about him. we were together for 4 years, so there is so much comfort and familiarity...he knows me better than anyone. i would be devastated if my BF and i broke up...and i know thats exactly what would happen if he found out. but does the fact that i still feel something for my ex mean anyhting? most women probably wouldnt even be giving this guy the time of day- he broke up with me one day-suddenly- after 4 years...with no reason or explanation. we didnt start talking again until a year after the break-up...please help, i am so confused...i know the best decision would be for me to cut all ties with my ex...but i think i would miss him too much!

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Then don't. But don't expect your current boyfriend to stay around when he finds out. And maybe he deserves to find someone who wants a monogamous relationship.
Seem to me you don't want to commit to him so you keep your ex around.
And you also were so hurt that you are in contact with you ex to work things out-to find out why he left and your ego wants the upper hand, to hear that he made a mistake. It really is petty though when you think about what you are risking.
Who matters more? What direction do you want your life to take? It's all about the choices you make. If your current bf was seeing his ex gf, doing what you are doing with your ex bf, how would you feel?
Carrie
I guess this is possible but frankly from your posts, there is something DEFINATELY lacking in you. You're playing a game of charades. Until you deal with your selfishness and lack of integrity and respect ANY forward progress in your relationship will be built like a house of cards.
Think about this. What is missing with the current? I ran your post by my bf, he pointed out and I quote - She wants the contact with the ex because it makes her feel better about the rejection from him breaking it off. To get that she is risking
losing her current bf (poor guy).
Any truth in that? I think there is. Think about it.
Carrie
Pretend your boyfriend walked in while you were kissing your other boyfriend.
I'm curious...how does this imaginary post end?
"If only I could.....?"
(You can, if you stop cheating right now.)
MB
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