is this relatioship going to work.......

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Registered: 04-07-2004
is this relatioship going to work.......
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Thu, 06-17-2004 - 3:02am

Hello All,


I'm new to this message board and I was hoping that I can get some advice. I'm having problems w/ my husband because his cousins and brother are always in our home. Since he comes out of work at 4:30 til probably 12:30am give or take. They *drink* all evening and basically just hang out. If they aren't here in our home they go else where and do the same thing. They don't have jobs and live w/ their parents-they don't have any responsibilities-my husband does. We spoke about this situation this afternoon and his response was basically " I see your point, but what am I going to do at home?" I am insulted and upset, I told him something had to change or we needed to break up. He left around 7pm and said he'd be back at 9pm it's 10:20 he's still not home, he's on his way but I think that's just because I've called him and asked him to bring me something. We have these disagreements about this same situation every summer for the past 3 summers. What shoud I do? or am I being unreasonable? TIA

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Registered: 03-03-2004
Thu, 06-17-2004 - 9:10pm
welcome to this site . this site will help you with any problems you have. why dont you tell your husband to help you around the house insted of drinking or you and him can go out places just think of things you two can do together cuz sweetie if he dont change i dont think you guys will last very long.
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Registered: 05-20-2003
Thu, 06-17-2004 - 9:40pm
In your profile you wrote of what you would like to accomplish: 'Raising my children to be decent responsible adults'

Do they have appropriate role models?

Is your husband looking for ideas on how to spend his time? Maybe you two can come up with a list together. Does he spend time with your other 2 children?