Reoccuring Problems

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Registered: 04-30-2003
Reoccuring Problems
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Wed, 05-28-2003 - 2:26pm
I posted awhile go on here about my husband not getting enough freedom. I took your advice and it seems to be working. Thanks Now I have other issues. Seems like they creep up all the time.I am a very moody person. It seems like the littlest thing sets me off. Its gets in the way of my marriage. We have a pretty dull life. No romance, little commuication about feeling. We don't have romance alot because my husband and I have lost interested in doing it because you never know what mood I am going to be in from one minute to the next. What can I do to alter my moods and get the romance back? Any romance ideas would be wonderful. Thanks

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Registered: 04-30-2003
Wed, 05-28-2003 - 3:53pm
Thanks for the suggestions. I am on the pill but I have always been like this. Little things just irratate me. I had my hormones checks a year or so ago and at that time everything was fine and nothing really has changed since then. As for the romance, we do have a date night every week but that is something we always know is coming. Which is nice. I guess I am really not sure what type of romance I am looking for. Thanks again.
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Registered: 05-06-2003
Wed, 05-28-2003 - 3:15pm
I agree with the poster that suggested maybe a chemical imbalance is to blame. I had terrible mood swings, was diagnosed with clinical depression, took Prozac, and am fine now. Simple as that.

As far as the romance, there's so many things you can do! A few months after we had our son, I was totally stressed out and felt like I didn't have time for anything but baby poop and formula and baths and crying, etc. As a wonderful surprise, my husband arranged for his mother to watch our son over-night on a Saturday. He took me to a fancy dinner and then to a hotel with a big jacuzzi in the room. It was WONDERFUL. Not only was I romanced, but I also got a good, sound night's sleep, which helped me with stress of caring for our baby. You could also go out to a movie, or if you like theater, go to a play. Go for a carraige ride (most down-town areas offer those). Buy a book that has romance ideas in it....1001 Nights of Grrreat Romance is a good one. Have a picnic together. There's lots of stuff to do, just don't give up! Good luck!

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Wed, 05-28-2003 - 3:14pm
Are you currently on any form of birth control? I know that when I was on the depo shot, I had horrible mood swings. I went from sad and crying uncontrollably to angry and throwing things. Since then I have switch to Ortho Tricyclen and am alot better. Also, I think it is a great idea to plan a "date night". Take turns planning date night and this will give you something to look forward to each week!
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Registered: 04-11-2003
Wed, 05-28-2003 - 2:51pm
Hi!

Have you ever spoken to a doctor about the mood swings? Have you always been like this, or was there a recent pregnancy? Your moods and hormones can be affected by so many things (my husband and my son both know when I am PMSing, without looking at the calander:)) you may have a chemical imbalance that a pill may be able to take care of.

If you can improve your moods, then maybe the rest would fall into place. A couple suggestions for romance, if you have children, see if someone can watch them and plan a "date" night with your husband. If you don't have children, maybe a weekend getaway to a hotel. It doesn't even need to be far away or anything special. It just seems that at home you get into the same routine and anything you can do to get a short break from that usually helps.

Good Luck to you, I hope things improve!!