Reunion after engagement breakup

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Registered: 09-03-2007
Reunion after engagement breakup
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Fri, 11-16-2007 - 11:12am
My fiance and I called off our wedding about 3 months ago.
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Registered: 12-11-2006
Fri, 11-16-2007 - 11:27am

He just needs to be honest about what happened.


'I think they really wanted him to call and apologize'


For what exactly? Did they lose money over the wedding because of this? Is this about them being worried that you will get your heart broken again? I am not sure why they need an apology.

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Registered: 09-03-2007
Fri, 11-16-2007 - 11:30am
I think because they saw me when i was at the height of being upset during our breakup.
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Registered: 02-20-2007
Fri, 11-16-2007 - 11:33am

I don't really think he owes them an apology. He had a lot going on in his life and he isn't really obligated to offer them an apology or explanation. It would be nice, sure, but if he was thinking of breaking up with you, I think that your parents would be the WORST people to talk to.

Let him say what he needs to say tonight. This is between him and your parents.

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Registered: 09-30-2005
Fri, 11-16-2007 - 11:36am

Welcome to the board ashlyn07,


In my opinion, he doesn't need to say anything to them about it. This is between the two of you. He doesn't need to apologize to them for anything. If he wants to say something to them about everything that is fine, but don't pressure him into it.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 11-16-2007 - 11:41am

Sometimes the best thing a man can do is be proactive with the goal to reduce tension.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 11-16-2007 - 4:09pm

This has to do with his relationship with your parents. It's between them. Since the two of you have been through such a hard time, and since he is working so well in making things better, perhaps it's a little too much for him right now to actually deal with this with your parents as well. Why not take the pressure off him? Just the fact that he's going to see and be with your parents is wonderful. He didn't hurt them directly. All the difficulty had to do with his relationship with you. He doesn't have to go through some penance with them. It's very understandable that it would be hard for him to contact them when things between the two of you were rough. There will be plenty of time later on to deal with this. The best thing for now is simply warmth and kindness and forgiveness and picking things up from here.


Best wishes,