Is Reunion Possible?

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Registered: 05-18-2004
Is Reunion Possible?
Wed, 06-16-2004 - 9:20pm
I have been separated from my husband for ten months. We obtained a legal property settlement, but not a divorce. At first, I was glad to be rid of the troubles we were in--always fighting and so on. I also felt hard done by with the property settlement. I became involved (disastrously) with one man, and then, much less disastrously but not really satisfactorily with another. I started reading Zen and the Art of Love and felt all of my rancour towards my ex just dissolve. I started thinking about everything we had and so many things that could be done differently. Over the past month my ex and I have started to get back in touch. We are now talking about getting back together. He is supposed to let me know what he wants to do this week. He has been seeing someone who he says he has only been with "for want of anything better." He says that most of his concerns are work-related. He is currently finishing a professional degree and will have to look for work which may be hard to find in the same city where we are now. I am just curious--is it common for separated people to get back together? How does it work? What are the most important things to remember to do should this happen?