Reuniting after a break-up

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Registered: 08-04-2004
Reuniting after a break-up
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Thu, 08-05-2004 - 4:34pm
Can two people really make a relationship work, after a break-up?

I know of one couple who did this successfully.

I always tell them, they are 1-in-a million.

What do you think?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 08-06-2004 - 4:11pm
i zuri...

Pianoguy agrees with you almost 100%. Most couples don't want to 'revisit the past' after they've split up! With different partners or spouses......maybe?

Making any relationship work after a break-up requires a lot of patience, understanding, and acceptance---and all of these have to continue indefinitely! Just saying I LOVE YOU isn't gonna kiss away the past problems and make 'em all better!

Pianoguy

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Registered: 07-24-2004
Sun, 08-08-2004 - 9:04pm
Yes... there are reasons why relationships end. I wished and wished and wished for another chance after my boyfriend dumped me last year. After four months of missing me (and me him, PAINFULLY), he came back, and now, here I am, dumped again 8 months later under almost the same circumstances. Luckily, once you've been dumped like that, you reserve some of your feelings; that's the other thing. When you DO get back together, you are still waiting for the other shoe to drop. You KNOW they are capable of ending things so the second go-round will never be as trusting and innocent as the first.

Perhaps, if people break up when they are young, they may re-establish something when they are older and have grown a bit. I even suspect that my ex and I could be a GREAT couple when we are in our mid-50s (15 years away....) but I don't think in the short term. Again... there are reasons why relationships end.