Right decision?

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Registered: 07-09-2010
Right decision?
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Wed, 09-21-2011 - 10:08am

I could use some confirmation.

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Registered: 04-16-2008
Wed, 09-21-2011 - 11:45am

I think you made the right decision. This guy sounds like he's really into himself and that HIS needs and wants come way before yours or his daughters. And he doesn't like kids? What if you'd want to have your grandchildren over some weekend when he"s there? I guess that would be a no go with him or he probably would not want to come over cause those pesky grandkids are there. It really doesn't sound like you 2 were compatible. You want more than he has to give. He sounds a lot like my oldest brother who's been living alone as a single man since his divorce 20 years ago. He is VERY set in his ways and his relationships never last very long because he IS so set in his ways and not willing to really go out of his way or change one iota for a GF. He never wanted to see them more than once or twice a week, and IF they wanted more time than that he would tire of them and break up with them cause they were wanting too much of his ME time. And

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Wed, 09-21-2011 - 12:09pm

It seems like you have different value systems where family is very important to you and not so much to him.

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Registered: 09-06-2007
Wed, 09-21-2011 - 12:34pm
It sounds like your values were just different - not on the same page. That and also what you each want from a relationship.

I think you did the right thing, he just wasn't the right one (ones, there are several out there that can match your needs).
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Registered: 05-20-2009
Wed, 09-21-2011 - 1:38pm

It takes 6 months to get to know a person!

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Registered: 07-09-2010
Wed, 09-21-2011 - 2:19pm
Hi
Actually, he wanted back and we got back together again, but he started his same stuff. I just had it and told him that it isn't working. I never felt so alone in a relationship and I was faced with either seeing him this sat or being with my daughter and grandson . When he didn't call me back after 6 hours and then showing up more than n hour late , that was the last straw.