Is this right or wrong? What to do now?

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Registered: 02-04-2008
Is this right or wrong? What to do now?
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Mon, 02-04-2008 - 9:47pm

Hi,


This is my first time writting in this forum. I'm going right now through some tough times and I need an advice so badly. I'm married, was happily married until someone got on my way. Let me tell you some details and please tell me what you think what I should do now.


Three years ago, my husband

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Registered: 09-30-2005
Tue, 02-05-2008 - 10:34am

Welcome to the board ikondrar81,


You need to end all contact and attempted contacted with this other guy. Don't look for him on messenger, etc...


Also start counseling to help work through these feelings that you are having.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Tue, 02-05-2008 - 4:01pm

Welcome to the board ikondrar81,


Could be the 'cocaine of romance' an affair of the heart, but not real love....


Do you want to end your marriage?

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Registered: 02-04-2008
Tue, 02-05-2008 - 4:49pm

I think it is the 'cocaine of romance', as there is no other way to describe it. How do I get it out of me? Is it really like a drug that just has to pass through your system? This causes a lot of discomfort in me and my daily life as well as my relationship with my husband. It's almost like the feeling of falling in love, with your head spining, nervousness, constant thinking of him, eager to go back there to see him, etc. I feel ashamed in a way for feeling this way, as I don't see anything wrong that my husband did.


My only question to that guy was, why he couldn't just treat me same as he treated other females around him. He didn't answer. As he said, he tried to write a letter to me, but couldn't find the right words - which is bull. Why is it so hard for men to admit their mistake or actions? I'd feel much better if he'd reply...but I don't think I'm ready to hear what may come out of his mouth.


The only change I see in my relationship with my husband is that he started his own business and he is less available. But this is with any small business, until he gets on his feet.


Thank you for you support and help!

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Tue, 02-05-2008 - 5:24pm

::My only question to that guy was, why he couldn't just treat me same as he treated other females around him. He didn't answer. As he said, he tried to write a letter to me, but couldn't find the right words - which is bull.


You are still playing with fire.