On the rocks and dont know what to do!

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Registered: 12-15-2011
On the rocks and dont know what to do!
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Thu, 12-15-2011 - 5:22pm

Hi All,

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Sat, 12-17-2011 - 11:12am

Matt

chaika

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Fri, 12-16-2011 - 9:46am

Thanks undercovercrab!!

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Fri, 12-16-2011 - 9:42am
" basically say "Here I am, take it or leave it" after Christmas? " Wow ! thats a rude way to converse !
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Fri, 12-16-2011 - 9:31am

If it were me, I would want to get the breakup done now. You can always change christmas plans... It would be better to spend time with your family and people who love you rather than awkwardly going through the motions knowing that this relationship is not long for this world.

She is 21 and you started dating her when she was a teenager... She is growing up, barely an adult, and it is very rare that teenagers stay with the same people into adulthood because we just change SO much. I am 28... I was a completely different person when I was 18. My interests and hobbies have stayed the same, but if I stayed with my boyfriend at the time, who I really loved and wanted to be with when I was an 18 year old, I would be a miserable 28 year old today. We were together for three years as well... It was hard to walk away from that amount of time but it was the right decision.

You may have something special, but it doesn't feel the same way to her... I know you want to convince her that what you have is rare and beautiful, but if she's not feeling it then you do have to respect that.

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Registered: 12-15-2011
Fri, 12-16-2011 - 4:28am

Thanks for all the replies guys!

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Fri, 12-16-2011 - 1:08am

Hi Matt

chaika

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Registered: 05-20-2009
Fri, 12-16-2011 - 1:00am

As the others have mentioned, you're both very young yet, particularly her.

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Fri, 12-16-2011 - 12:07am
musiclover12 wrote:

Most of the time, people do not end up w/ their first serious BF or GF because the late teens or early 20's are when you go through a great deal of emotional & personal growth and find out what you are really like as adults.

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Thu, 12-15-2011 - 7:27pm

Most of the time, people do not end up w/ their first serious BF or GF because the late teens or early 20's are when you go through a great deal of emotional & personal growth and find out what you are really like as adults.

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Registered: 12-05-2006
Thu, 12-15-2011 - 5:49pm

This is a tough one.

First, it doesn't sound like she has to do any work to retain your love and adoration so it is quite possible that she doesn't feel that she has earned it, deserves it, sense of