"romantic" COUPLE's cruise -_-

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Registered: 12-11-2011
"romantic" COUPLE's cruise -_-
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Sun, 12-11-2011 - 9:00pm
My bf, of 2 yrs, &i planned a couple's cruise to the bahamas july 11' for spring break 12'. It's supposed to only be us two to get away & enjoy each other for once with no interruptions. Although we each invited one couple from our list of friends, they won't be attending because they don't have funds. He didn't mind that at all & was more excited for it to be only us. The cruise was his idea to "avoid all of the hot spots, same people, &parties during break".

He informed his mother of our cruise &of the purpose of it. "that's gonna be nice. Me &al were going to mexico. But we can go with ya'll instead. We're gonna have fun" She invited herself & her boyfriend on our cruise. He did nothing to prevent it. A couple if hours ago, he told me that she called &said that his two younger brothers, 15 & 10, will be joining us as well & that his mom said it'll be a family cruise.

I told him that I didn't like that they made changes to OUR plans & that I'm the last to know. He replied, "what's the difference we're going on a cruise. If they wanna come, they can. I didn't change anything. at least I told you ahead of time. I can't stop them. We invited our friends. It shouldn't matter if they come or not. we don't have to be with them. What? Rig don't want nobody going with us?"

I told him that his family &our friends who are a couple are two different things. he argues that I shouldn't have a problem with it. He always changes our plans, letting people interfere& I'm always the last to know. He is inconsiderate of my feelings. I'm not excited about this "romantic" cruise anymore.
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Sun, 12-11-2011 - 11:41pm

Portent of things to come!

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Mon, 12-12-2011 - 12:01am
True &i thought about letting him go alone w/his family. Thank you for your input
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Mon, 12-12-2011 - 1:20am

I think if he really wanted to say no to his mom, he would have. Maybe he just really does not mind that they are coming. He should have been more considerate of your feelings and I think he owes you another getaway where is just the two of you. I don't think that it is something to break up over or deciding not going to the cruise. I would suggest that you spend some time alone when you are at each port. Also, I don't like when people say that mama's boys do not change because it is simply not true. My husband was the biggest mama's boy that I have ever met and now he is completely different Just make sure that he knows how you feel and tell him that it is not about his family but that simply you wanted time alone with him because he could easily think that you have problem with his family.

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Mon, 12-12-2011 - 8:39am

I don't know if it is too late to get a refund, but if I were you, I would let him spend time with his family and use your hard-earn money and vacation time on a single's cruise and look for a new boyfriend!

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Sat, 02-25-2012 - 11:10pm

I told him that I wouldn't be joining him and his family on THEIR cruise. Instead, I planned a getaway w/my family &closest friend girls; we're also going skydiving in Knoxville, TN!!!! :smileyvery-happy: thank you all for your input

When I spoke with his mother about the issue & asked for my money back, she told me that I was a "stressor" to her and her family and that i'm "a non-f*cking factor" and trying to live my life through her son. -_- I didn't get disrespectful with her, but I didn't bite my tongue. I ended the conversation.

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Sun, 02-26-2012 - 3:24am

nelaspiel, are you still a couple with him?

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Sun, 02-26-2012 - 3:57am
We are a couple. I accept him & his family; I distance myself from them.