Ruined Valentine's Day?
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Ruined Valentine's Day?
| Fri, 02-13-2004 - 2:54pm |
I've been dating a wonderful man for 9 months now. We get along well and he is really loving so naturally I was really excited about our first Valentine's Day.....normally I don't buy into the need to have my love proven on one day, but I was looking forward to cooking him a nice meal and staying in for the night. I knew that he hated the pressure of this day so I was trying to down play it to a casual meal and some romantic fun. Last night he suggested inviting friends over for dinner and this devasted me. I wasn't expecting a big fuss but to have the day dismissed entirely was too much. We fought, he apologized for not realizing how much this meant to me, and have made up. The arguement didn't last long, but today I'm feeling so disappointed that the evening I was planning is ruined. I know he loves me so how do I let this go w/out it becoming a big deal? Please help....I love my relationship and it's really good but I'm hurt that he wasn't wanting to see past his own mood to notice my excitement.

Listen, I can certainly understand your frustration, you planned a nice romantic day for him and you really wanted to "show" him how much you cared for him on this day.
James
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Why does the evening have to be "ruined"???
Also, is this about more than one day? Do you feel he isn't romantic enough or doesn't go out of his way for you regularly? Does he put work first? Is this an on-going fight?
How do you let it go...stop pointing fingers (because they are being pointed at the wrong peson to begin with) and start holding hands, kiss him, cuddle with him, talk about the day you first met, your first kiss, your dreams for the future, and realize that it's not that he didn't want to spend the day with you, it's that he didn't know that you wanted to spend the day with just him.
Simply put...it's just a case of miscommunication, so take it as a lesson learned and try to verbalize those expectations in the future rather than assuming he can read your mind.