Same old Cycle

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Registered: 04-02-2004
Same old Cycle
Fri, 05-14-2004 - 10:52am
Has this happened to you? You have discriminating taste, and you finally find someone who you think has the potential to get to know better. Then, first date goes good. It seems to go so good for the partner, that they decide to speed things up, and are talking about sex and intimacy to the point where I get turned off.

I am not saying that I am turned off by sex and intimacy, but every great relationship I've had, started off, NOT talking about these topics so soon. Just because I gave the go ahead to call, does not give the guy the go ahead that I am going to sleep with him.

Well anyway, this has happened to me again. We had a few good conversations, and then, now, this guy is calling me all the time, trying to speed things up, talking all intimate and stuff.

Usually when this happens, I get so turned off, I just disappear. I am about to do it again, but because me and this guy are in the same business circles, I think I am going to attempt to explain how and why he turned me off, instead of just not answering calls.

Now, I just want to throw him in the pile of, "oh, you are just like everyone else"

He actually made me laugh the other day. He made a comment about wanting to get to know me, and finding out if I was "just another pretty face" but in the same breath, he came on all strong with this intimacy crap, and I was like, "I wonder if you something more than a guy who just wants to get in my pants"

Why do guys do this? Do they really think we are going to be interested in them by constantly talking about bedding us, before we even get to know them? Dont you think this is rude? I seem to only get this treatment when dealing with African American men. Is it a cultural thing? Or does this behavior transcend accross all ethnic lines.

What do you think?