save our relationship.

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save our relationship.
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Sat, 01-26-2008 - 9:10pm




Edited 1/28/2008 10:29 pm ET by muzi2000
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Sat, 01-26-2008 - 10:31pm

If he feels strongly enough about this then it's within his rights to break up with you over it. I happen to think it's absurd, a degree is merely a piece of paper that no one but a future employer has any right to judge you on. What matters more is your intellectual compatibility. Your boyfriend is petty, and if you think that simply obtaining an MBA is going to change how he feels, you're probably wrong. Getting a degree is something you should do to further yourself, not so someone who supposedly loves you will stop looking down on you.

I don't see how a man who requires you to match him in education can actually truly love you. Even if you got a degree, he would probably condescend to you about what college you went to. Do you feel like his intellectual equal? He should be aware that graduate school does not make you more worldly or cultured or intellectual. It certifies you for certain skills and expertise so that you can get a better job, not a better boyfriend.

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Sat, 01-26-2008 - 11:22pm
This doesn't really add up. There are probably other reasons he wants to
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Sat, 01-26-2008 - 11:56pm


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Sun, 01-27-2008 - 1:32am
Why don't you save the money you would use on going to grad school for your "love," and instead put it toward something that will benefit YOU. Unless you best him education-wise, he'll look down on you forever. And since it doesn't sound like you intend to go to Harvard, I would just accept what he says, that he can't be with you due to educational differences, and find someone who doesn't feel that way.
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Sun, 01-27-2008 - 10:38am
If your boyfriend's parents are able to put this much pressure on their son to end his relationship with you, you need to let him go.
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Sun, 01-27-2008 - 11:57am




Edited 1/28/2008 10:31 pm ET by muzi2000
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Sun, 01-27-2008 - 12:47pm

"I have seen his parents, they are nice people. They never mention they dislike me when I was with them. "

Are you absolutely sure then, that it's not his parents putting pressure on you, but just him?

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Edited 1/28/2008 10:30 pm ET by muzi2000
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Mon, 01-28-2008 - 1:58am

That is outrageous.