says hes not looking for anything, any1

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Registered: 04-25-2004
says hes not looking for anything, any1
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Mon, 05-03-2004 - 3:07am
takes the time to post adult ads on the www.comments to me, i dunno if any1 has replied to my ads. hes "NOT LOOKING" he constantley tells me ,then why bother posting ads,& lying on every 1 of his profiles, hes 39, hes 43,& the latest 1 is that hes 41.ive told him how i feel,& that i really dont appreciate it, he says i have no control over him, or what he does. it wouldnt bother,& hurt me soo badly,but the fact of the matter is,we have a 3 month old son,& it really doesnt make sense to me that if hes not interested in sex, or anything,or meeting another woman, then why on earth go to great lengths to post,& knowingly promote false info. his age, his son,& his being single.
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Registered: 04-01-2003
Mon, 05-03-2004 - 6:59am
Dont kid yourself here and dont let him pull the wool over your eyes. What other motivation would there be to have ads posted on the internet?
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Registered: 06-13-2003
Mon, 05-03-2004 - 2:07pm
Excuse me but what about the fact that he is lying to all sorts of women out there, deceiving and duping them? He's not exactly possessing strong quality of character, IMO. He's hurting more people than just you. Try not to focus on *why* he is doing this. The reason behind his behavior is secondary to the behavior itself. Is this the type of man you want to spend your life with? He's not going to turn into a different type of person just b/c you'd like him to be, b/c wish he was, or b/c you get angry and upset. His behavior demonstrates his values, morals, priorities, beliefs, boundaries, etc. If they don't align with yours, then this is probably not the right guy for you. I'm sorry to say that since there is a child involved, but facts are facts. You're only going to continue feeling angry, hurt and disappointed so long as you continue your quest to change him into someone who feels the same as you do and wants the same as you do. He doesn't. And you aren't going to succeed in making him. Good luck making wise choices from here (for your sake and the sake of your child).
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Registered: 03-01-2004
Tue, 05-04-2004 - 12:39am
I would have to agree with bratgirl. He's up to no good.