Scared I will get involved again
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Scared I will get involved again
| Tue, 06-22-2004 - 4:42pm |
A couple of years ago, I had an "emotional" affair with a man I worked with. We never had any physical demonstration of our feelings, but I fell in love with him. I was not sure of his feelings for me. He left the job, but I have now found out that he is coming back to work at my company and will be working closely with me again. I can not change that he is coming back to work with me, but I need to find a way not to get emotionally involved with him again. I'm afraid that I am still in love with him. To make this even worse, I am married and love my husband very much. (We were both married at the time we worked together before.) How can I get over this man?

Can't you transfer to a different area of the building...or to a different department within the company? Pianoguy is puzzled by one thing.
You're assuming that the feelings you and Mr. Emotional had experienced earlier---are going to SUDDENLY rekindle! How do you know he hasn't gotten married? Found a new girlfriend? Or might be connected with someone else? Your past relationship has been over for quite awhile, correct?
Ask yourself 2 questions:
Do you find fulfillment in your marriage? Are you happy with your husband? If the answer to both these is YES.............
Then act like a grownup and work with Mr. Returnee like you would work with any other co-worker....as a non-attached professional!
If the answer to one or both of my questions is: "I'm not sure".......then get some professional help! YOU are being paid to do a job...not carry-on with a co-worker.
ACCEPT THIS & GET OVER IT!
Pianoguy