Scared of monotony
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| Sun, 03-14-2004 - 7:01am |
My boyfriend and I have been together for over 4 years and have lived apart. We decided several months ago that we were ready and wanted to move in together, however had some old bills to pay off and decided to wait until these were taken care of. We are planning to rent a cottage from his parents in June.
Recently, our relationship seemed to move forward very quickly. A month ago, my car died and we were forced to share his and carpool to work. Now, we are combining our money, paying our bills together, shopping together, sharing care for my son and eating dinner together each night, truly sharing the parenting responsibilities. I am very happy about this and it is what I have always wanted, but am suddenly feeling very scared.
My biggest fear about marriage has always been the monotony I see. Now that we have fallen into a routine, (every saturday morning, we wake up and go over finances, then go grocery shopping, then run errands, etc.), I am afraid that this will happen to us once we have lived together for a while. We have a wonderful relationship, a fantastic sex life, and a special bond. But, I have been feeling something changing between us and I don't understand what it is. We are acting like a married couple now, no longer a dating couple, and I find I am unsure of how to adjust. I am even finding our sex life to be routine, which has always been so exciting and spontaneous. What if we get bored, or more to the point, what if he gets bored with me? How do I adjust to this new stage in our relationship and help it stay enjoyable and exciting?
Thank you for the input.
Kerri
| Sun, 03-14-2004 - 1:29pm |
