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Second, to everything
| Fri, 04-23-2004 - 4:32am |
I'll try to keep this short. My b/f and I have been dating for almost a year. We knew each other in high school (15 years ago) and ran into each other one night and started dating. This is a long distance relationship. We are three hours away from each other. In the past several months he has been less than tentative with me. We don't talk as much and don't see each other as much. His job has gotten very busy and other excuses, but I feel if he really wanted to he would not keep pushing me to the side. We have talked about this but to no resolve. He is on the road this week for his job and I haven't gotten to speak with him. He is also being relocated six hours away. He hasn't even talked to me about his. You would think since he claims I am the most important thing in his life, etc. he would discuss this with me. I kinda feel like the writing is on the wall and I should get out. But I do love him and when we are together we have the best time. But when we aren't together, we have had several fights. He is very immature when it comes to fighting. He goes for the heart and doesn't seem to care if he hurts my feelings. He walks out and hangs up on me and then won't call me for days and maybe even more if I wouldn't call him. This isn't high school. I don't play those stupid games. I don't and won't do the break-up game to get his attention. If I break it off,it will be final. Does it seem obvious that I really am not important to him?
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| Fri, 04-23-2004 - 10:20am |
Well, the bottom line is that even if he really does consider you an important part of his life, then you are seeing how he treats important things in his life. His actions are telling you what you need to know. You've had almost a year to see if this situation is one that will work for you and apparently it isn't. If I were a betting woman I'd bet that this isn't going to get better from here. IMO, if after a year something isn't working for you, it's most likely not the right fit for you and no amount of discussing or cajoling will change that. We are who we are. If you get to know a person and you find out you're not a good fit together (ie, you're not truly content, satisfied and happy with him or her as is), then learn from it and move on. Why beat a dead horse? Love alone is not enough to create a happy and satisfying relationship. There's so much more that needs to be present and from what you posted it sounds like there are vital things missing for you two. You say you don't play the stupid games he plays but as long as you stay in this....you ARE playing along. I agree that breaking up should be the last resort and it should be final if that's the road a person takes. And that choice is yours. Good luck.
