Secret Communication

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Registered: 11-25-2003
Secret Communication
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Tue, 06-08-2004 - 7:41pm
This may sound trivial but it is making me crazy. My boyfriend of almost 2 years used to 'date' a woman in the office and they would hook up after happy hours if you get my drift. Well - I found out about this before we started dating and it has always bothered me. I used to work in the same office but left a few months ago. She has been let go due to downsizing and I know that her last week is either this week or next week. I also had a very sneaky suspicion that she would contact him before she left. He knows how freaked out I get about this subject. Well - I have his sign on information for e-mail. He gave this to me and told me to use it whenever I needed it. Today I needed the number for the carpet cleaner he used. Well - there is an e-mail (read) from her that came today. I did the unthinkable and read it. It basically said goodbye and here is how you can reach me in the future and she would love to hear from him.

Should I expect him to tell me about it and be upset if he doesn't? It is my fault for looking but now I am watching to see if he responds. I feel so bad about this but not bad enough not to watch.

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Registered: 12-23-2003
Wed, 06-09-2004 - 12:43am
I personally believe that a person starts off in a relationship 100% until they do something to do loose it. This relationship that you are talking about happened prior to you. I dont think it was right for you to read his email because to me it shows a lack of trust and if you dont trust then you shouldnt be together.


Destiny

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-04-2003
Wed, 06-09-2004 - 3:28pm
Why not say, "When I was getting a number from your email, I saw you got one from so-and-so, what did she want? Isn't her last day this week?"


Carrie

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-25-2003
Thu, 06-10-2004 - 3:26pm
You are both correct. I thought about it all day and when he called me later that day, I told him what I saw. He was completely understanding. I still feel bad about it but I am so glad we talked about it.