Seemingly unfair take on things
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|Fri, 09-06-2013 - 12:03am|
This may sound a little funny but I need some opinions on this. Started dating this really amazing lady a few years back but it has been on & off (more off than on) because we just seem to have so differnt views about things. we have walked away many times, trying to accept we are just not compatible, and somehow, we always try it again..the other issues i know and hope to figure out but have one i can't just don't get... the unfairness of issues we argue about. I am generally a very laid back guy, meaning i don't try to control, judge the actions of my partner. If i have decided i love and trust you, then I limit my say on your actions. Plus we are all grown folks, capable of making our own decisions. So never will I be the guy asking who are calling, or where are you going, or any of that possessive stuff. And she loves this about me. but on the other hand she is the exact opposite. I can't change a thing in my routine without getting the third degree... and that drives me crazy. 2 good examples.
-At the swimming pool, I wear a pair of running shorts at times, very plain, standard issue, worn by quite a few other people at such pools too. She does not like them because they seem to cling too much when wet. I disagree but my main issue she is wearing a 2 piece bikini, which i have no issues with, but is then complaining about my shorts... i can't see how a person can logically do that...
- Friends of opposite gender... another battle ground area. She has good male friends, and she hangs out, goes for parties, swaps meals and other normal stuff friends do. And i'm ok with that...but let some lady i know do anything of kindness in my direction, and all of a sudden, that woman might be trying to get at me, regardless of her age or marital status... again, i look and say same thing, where is the logic in that... if you believe that you as a woman can have male friends, then how is it that any female that does something friendly is after something?
maybe my issue is i am trying to use logical thinking in a relationship...
Does any of that make sense to anyone