serious enough to have sex but no marry?

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Registered: 03-03-2004
serious enough to have sex but no marry?
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Wed, 06-16-2004 - 6:36pm
Me and my boyfriend have been together for one year and 9 months. When we first went out we both knew that we were very serious in our relationships and when we went out with ppl it was for a something that would lead to marrige. we have been through alot and really love eachother. so we were going to get married september 25 this year. but we were talking today and he tells me " i dont think im ready to take that step". what do i do? first he tells me yeah were going to get married then he says hes not ready. hes ready for sex hes ready to be serious but not marrige? im very confuzed ppl help me understand him.
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Registered: 05-20-2003
Wed, 06-16-2004 - 8:27pm
He doesn't want to get married now. Maybe he feels he is too young, maybe he isn't ready to commit, maybe he is scared or maybe he wants to break up. Did you clarify? Did you tell him that you fear you are only good enough for sex? Only he can tell you the reason.

'hes ready for sex'

People have sex with strangers so seriousness is not an issue there.

'hes ready to be serious but not marrige?'

Plenty of people stay serious for years before committing to marriage.