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sex for the first time
| Mon, 05-12-2008 - 11:15pm |
I am dating this guy for 10 weeks now. It has been good. We see each other once or twice a week and we talk every day. We seem to be getting more serious. We have heavy make out sessions and I am at a place where I feel ready to have sex with him however, I am afraid that he will not understand that this will be my first time...I am a 38 year old virgin. I have told him early on that when I feel ready to have sex, I will just let him know. He has been willing to wait. How do I bring it up...that I am a virgin? I have been in situations where men have broken up with me because those men would not wait for sex but with this guy it has been different. I know my body is ready for sex and am not quite sure if I am emotionally ready for it. Any insightful comments would be very helpful. Thanks in advance.

Welcome to the board trustlove8,
If he were a virgin, how would you want him to tell you?
Welcome to the board trustlove8,
If you feel like you are ready to have sex with him, than before you do and outside of the bedroom tell him that the reason you wanted to wait was because you are a virgin. Since he has been willing to wait to have sex, I really think he will be understanding about it.
You might want to visit the let's talk about sex board. Let me know if you want a link to it.
Best of luck to you.
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Edited 5/13/2008 10:41 pm ET by trustlove8
Personally, to me, a relationship develops in stages.
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He is feeling the pressure of responsibility of having sex with me for the first time. He is afraid how I would feel if things don't work out between us if we were to have sex. He has started to distance himself and I don't know what to do. I am reacting to his distance by distancing myself at the same time.
He is starting to give off signs of breaking things off with me. He has just complained about our distance (we live an hour from one another), about our hobbies (he has focused hobbies and mine are more varied or you might say he thinks I don't have any), about our different backgrounds (cultural and social) and I'm sure there is more on his running list. I have just learned that he is the one who leaves first in all of his relationship. He has told me that he not sure where we are heading and has not made any decisions about us.
My guard is up right now and I am scared. Should I walk away? Should I stay, be strong and work out his issues? I am falling for him and he is a good worthy man. I know I still don't really know him yet since we have started dating in March. I am hestitant in taking the risk and getting hurt. Please, any advice would be much appreciated.
Z